patientZERO

CAT5 put it way more eloquently than I can, but I agree...I don't ever understand the point of 'trying' to make things work by forcing square pegs into round holes for the rest of your life in misery missing out on what you really wanted.
To me, someone must love an equal amount that I do them, and if it was socially acceptable I'd definitely be one of those people that just delivers a written list of things that are most important / non-negotiable to me up front and want to know the same of them, because why not? Shouldn't utmost honesty be the foundation of being bound with another person. Idealistic, whatever, but you should never compromise your own ideals, it'll only rot away whatever love you had initially until it's an empty shell and the partnership becomes just one more disaster you can see in public (or at dysfunctional holidays) every day.

While it's tempting to want to please the person you love above yourself, I don't recommend it, especially not for something you hold so seriously.
This is from someone who cannot care less for institutional marriage, only for the practice of being bonded together that transcends state. Which seems to be very important to you, and at three years...it really isn't that long, there are many many more people out there who holds your ideals as seriously as you do. Good luck

I'm sorry to hear that mate. I totally feel you. However, I honestly think you shouldnt force your way of thinking to your gf. The idea of marriage should come from 2 parties.

I know it's a harsh truth, but rn you have 2 options:

1. Stop right away before it hurts you more later in the future.

2. Keep going dont give up if you think she's worth fighting for.

Nobody else here or in the world can decide those options for you. You are the one who comprehends the whole situation and your own feeling. So take a breather, give yourself time to re-think everything and then make a decision. Insert image from URL

Hope for the best, mate.

Thank you for taking the time out of your day to write all that down for me CAT. It's definitely what I needed to hear and now I have a lot of thinking to do. I woke up to a message from her saying how she loved me and can't imagine her life without me, but is afraid of getting married and having kids because once you do that you don't have an escape (I'm paraphrasing). I still am a bit in the dark at how she feels as she hasn't been able to really explain herself clearly, but we plan on having a sit-down conversation about it all tomorrow. I'm going to explain myself better and say that if she has any doubts on whether she wants to spend the rest of her life with me, then she should maybe spend some time without me to think it over. It's not like I proper proposed to her, this was just the conversation before I should really start planning my life around that, but I was thinking about proposing soon (this year) and now it's all thrown out of whack.

Maybe I put too much thought and effort and weight into this relationship, and that's partially my fault, as I've really only had her on my mind in regards to our future. I wasn't think about bettering myself or even where I would want to be in my life in the future. I just knew that I wanted her to be a part of it.

Thank you again, all, for your kind (and sometimes harsh, but definitely needed) words. This situation is still raw and still new and all still shaky. But I feel better about it all now than I did before. Nervous, but better.

I thought I was the only one as OCD as this with CDs.

"Vk is like literally THE ONLY thing i spend money on during that timeperiod... like i don't buy any DVDs, Manga, Video Games,...."  

@VkBrutaliaN, are you me?

@Komorebioh you are of the same kind huh?!^^

I kinda want to do some of the tourist-y stuff. I want to go to Akiba, but the person I'm visiting isn't into that sort of thing, so I think I'll probably go alone. I'm looking forward to eating all the foods I miss! Okonomiyaki, omurice, gyudon, that sort of thing. I didn't know about the metropolitan building, though. Maybe I'll do that instead of Skytree or Tokyo Tower. I also want to go to Gundam Base, but I just feel bad because she isn't interested in a lot of the things I want to do and I don't want to make her feel bad.

Sorry ... I'm probably saying too much. Haha!

Nah, don't apologize. 

I've traveled alone and accompanied and both have pros and cons. 

I suggest you plan stuff together like certain trips and meals, but also give yourselves time to enjoy your own interests on your own. Splitting during a trip isn't bad at all and it can be even for best sometimes. It's easy to get into each other's nerves when traveling with someone.

Get a couple of cheap prepaid simcards so you can stay in touch when splitting and don't be afraid to enjoy a few hours on your own

She's got work during the days on the first week, so I'll have all that time to myself. I'm hoping to get all the nerdy stuff I want to do out of the way while she's working and then we'll have the evenings/nights together and then on the second week, we'll be together the whole time. She's okay with going to some lives (she just thinks the music I listen to is noisy) so that'll be fine.

I'm going to try ask her to get a SIM card for myself for the two weeks (she lives in Tokyo) while I'm there, but don't know if I should go SIM or pocket wifi, since the last phone I had wouldn't take the SIM card and I was boned. I've got a while to go before I go over, so I'm planning as much as I can in advance.

@platyDepending on where you got tabetai, they gave out live DVDs of one song as shop bonuses. I'm kicking myself for not picking that up.

Don't know if you already do so, but I'd advise you to check out mercari as well: https://www.mercari.com/jp/search/?keyword=まみれた+お邪魔します

@Seelentau forgot about that site thanks for bringing it up

I think it might be time to start talking to a lawyer my friend.

So, it turns out the company that ran the background check just checked any known aliases for my name (I have a really plain and common first and last name). Nothing is tied to my social security number, luckily. It was just a company not giving a fuck and casting a wide net.

That's fucking ridiculous

Of course! I totally understand! Sorry, I’ve had some friends slapped with that before, and I saw how much it got to them. But they got to Japan their own way. Things might be bleak now (and feel free to mourn), but things also have a way of working out and I hope they do the same for you.

There are plenty of other jobs out there besides JET. Like frayed said you can check out Gaijinpot as well as Jobs in Japan, Ohayo sensei, etc. Don't give up! Right now is actually prime job hunting season since the fiscal year starts in April in Japan.

If you're looking for an ALT job, try an ALT placement company, like Interac - https://www.interacnetwork.com/recruit/

As said above, now is just the right time to apply.

Mods have removed it entirely after I reported it as a transcode

Good question ... especially since they went out of their way to make us think it was their proper rip in 320. It's all for that sweet sweet internet karma.

I'm so sorry guys, I tried my best to find a proper 320 kbps.

I only saw people holding out Zyean checki for the most part. My guess was gya mostly wanted Ricko's as it was his birthday live and he spent a LOT of time taking cheki back stage before the encore because he cosplayed as Hyde from L'arc en Ciel. They pulled a prank on him since it was his birthday. Boogie and Sena told the crowd that they were going to give him this tiny piece of cake and then after that, they'd play a few songs until the final song and then surprise him again with a real cake. So Ricko came out, got the crowd hyped for the encore and then the background synth started playing Happy Birthday. Boogie walked out with a TINY piece of cake and went to hand it to Ricko, after Ricko reluctantly said thank you and Boogie took a huge bite out of it and then walked away! We all laughed, they played a L'arc cover, another song and then Ricko went "This last song is called ... BLOOD ... FUCKING ... SHOT!!!" And they all played the first bar of the song before the birthday music hit again. Ricko's back was facing the crowd and he just stood there, and went "he~?" into the mic. It was super hilarious. Boogie brought out the real cake and they all said some words about Ricko and his impact on their lives and the band. Zyean was pretty soft-spoken (I've never really heard him talk much before) and was saying how nice Ricko was and how they had similar interests in games and such and Ricko started crying. He held it in pretty well, and then cracked a bit again when Sena started talking. It was a pretty astounding experience. I stood out like a sore thumb being the only gaijin and probably one of six or so men, but I could visibly see the band were excited to see a male gaijin at such a small show.

I still haven't watch it, but the DVD I got was the SZ version. I have to say, too, that Ricko made his way up to number 2 for me after seeing him live. He's so energetic, and ALWAYS on key. He didn't hit a flat note the whole live, plus he was smiling ear-to-ear the whole time. Zyean's still my dude and it was real cool seeing him sing backing on some songs, Boogie too.

It fills my heart to read all this. They really do get along and it shows that it’s not just a bunch of dudes stuck together by a contract, and that friendship and passion shows on stage. 

Ricko is such a bright and pure person, he really is one of the nicest people I’ve met. I’m happy to hear he was happy. 

Omg please let me know how Sena sings 🤣

Zyean is awesome, period. He’s so chill and easy to talk to and tries his best to speak English with foreign fans lol I hope you get a chance to go to a M&G someday. They are really fun to interact with. 

It's wonderful to hear that you had a great time in Japan and at the live. I love how intimate and heartwarming VK lives at smaller livehouses can be, giving both the fans and the musicians/band a very memorable experience. Aside from the live, I agree with the cuisine part! It's one of my favorites parts - eating authentic Japanese food at the restaurants and food stalls. I always sorely miss it after leaving. Fingers crossed for your permanent move to Japan!

I feel ya. I'm not employed yet but I've been looking for a job for months and I was set to have a tour around a local shop on Friday morning which would lead to a work experience placement, then a paying job if I did well enough. Guess what's getting rescheduled due to coronavirus.

there's like a real new global recession predicted for 2020 anyway why r y'all so worried about like the flu

I work in aviation, too, but I'm almost five years seniority, which is one of the oldest in the department aside from my boss. I'm still worried regardless because of the airline just going under. I know president said he'd bailout the airlines, but the money has to come from somewhere.

Just because it's a Sony first-party game doesn't mean it's Japanese. It's developed by Sucker Punch, a studio from Seattle. Their latest State of Play states lots about how it's inherently and clearly an American production heavily influenced by old films by Kurosawa and the like. I think it looks great and I'm very excited for it. The cultural appropriation comment was a thought and it is, by definition, borderline appropriation.

I'd agree if it weren't for the fact that Sucker Punch aren't going to be getting anywhere near what the publisher is, they're a developer underneath the Playstation brand, if it were the other way around then yes that's definitely cultural appropriation. That being said the black and white filter and Japanese subs shows that this is more or less a love story and homage to the works of Kurosawa and others.

Alright, I can see that. It's a love letter rather than the content being taken out of context.

Yeah I know what you mean.

Fuckkk that's just ridiculous. 

I know, right?! It's because the wire is threaded through the hinge clip, so you need to pretty much open up the whole headset and solder the wire off the earphone and back on when you replace the clip. It makes sense for portability and it makes it sturdier, but holy hell is it expensive.

Haha, yeah.They're certainly reppin' the DOGMA vibes!

And I'll let you know if I find RED SORROW, but I'm not expecting too much.

In which shop did you bought it ?

ZEALLINK carries both types.

Yeah, they posted on their twitter that they'd post working links at a later date.

I wonder if they'd be kind enough as an apology to share all of the old songs again too...

That'd be good. I know I got two of the three that they posted before, but missed the first one (I don't remember the title).

I don't think JILUKA sells out their onemans...  but I ca ask around just in case. It's so great that you get to go.

Based on the pictures of Youtsuya LOTUS, that place is tiny. And I thought Amemura DROP was small. Thanks for asking around, too!

Birthday onemas are apparently always in tiny venues 🤔 If it does sell out gya will be selling tickets on twitter anyway lol

I saw news about it a while ago and just saw the trailer they posted today. I'm a bit wary of all CGI anime, but this one looks fine since it's not really about the people. Only 10 more days!

Berserk 2016 is an CGI/drawn anime as well. And yes I'm very excited.

It is and Berserk 2016 is an absolute shitfest. It looks cheap, is poorly animated and the visual style is absolute disgusting.

Godzilla: Planet of the Monsters looks neat tho. High expectations for everything that is Japanese and Godzilla.

It's a long trip and expensive if I take the shinkansen, so maybe I'll make it an overnight trip. Hmmm. I don't really know what's in Nagoya, but it's time to look!

Nagoya is about halfway  between Osaka and Tokyo. And the nightbus is probably around $30-$40

I brought it up with my partner and she said there's nothing she has interest in seeing in Nagoya. So maybe not. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for some sweet lineups for New Years lives.

At this point he's just farming clicks for his new project... 

My guess is that he probably moved to Tokyo or away from Osaka, where Deviloof is located, hence leaving the band. But that's entirely conjecture. Regardless, the dude needs to focus on the future.

He's definitely not in the same place with his new members. So it's more like an online project or something. 

Fuck her bro.

@MamoNow I don't know if I'm going to go to work on Monday and get the boot. Ultimately, it wouldn't be a huge loss since I don't see myself working there long-term, but it was nice to have a relatively easy job to provide income will I look for a more permanent position. 

I see well at least if that does happen it's not huge loss as you said. I wish the best for you in the future in that regard.

Holy cow, this sucks. Well, wait some years and sell them at overpriced values as relic$

$200?!

Yeah, they were $90 for GA floor tickets, plus fees. So two tickets cost me about $220 ...

Just hope that at least when it does come time for you to be up to bat, that it's a simple furlough and not a layoff. I'm fucked cuz I'm pretty sure they are going to sever my contract with the company I work for, but it also means I can apply for unemployment since it will be a layoff.

Good luck dude. 

World is getting rough out there man... 

@YuyoDriftGood luck to you too, man. I honestly hope this all blows over before it comes to a second round of layoffs for myself and before they terminate your contract. Yesterday was a hard day at work for everyone in the company and afterward there was a conference call where they expected everyone else to step up for those who were let go. A bit of a mixed bag of messages.

I will give them a bit of credit, though, since they laid off those who were close to retirement age (and probably gave them early retirement) and also some of the chaff who weren't that great to begin with, but they couldn't afford to let go when we were super busy. It still sucks, though.

Hang in there everybody. I'm trying to stay positive.

I just purchased a different live dist. lol

Oh? You don't say? 

I only paid $3 lol on auction. And yeah  I think "Daisuki" and "ARBITER" are their best releases. So glad I got this.

Good! It's a great addition to your collection, especially for that price!

aie's been touring & recording with gibkiy gibkiy gibkiy over the first half of the year and there's the whole deadman revival thing going on too so maybe he's just too busy to juggle everything. 

justice for KEEL

Same here! I didn't know what to expect, but I was blown away, haha. :D 

My girlfriend saw it when it was in theaters and told me I needed to see it, but I didn't think I had to wait two years until it came to the States. After the first  third or so, I was thinking "why are people gushing about this?" And then it just got better and better. Haha!

there was a yuge twitter breach. lots of people got hacked.

Yeah, lots of accounts are tweeting out Bitcoin scam links. They even got Obama's official account lmaooo.