patientZERO 1066 Posted November 16, 2016 ^ well, to make matters worse, I'm an American in Japan, so there's all sorts of cultural differences ... Like I don't know if she was interested in me or just interested in the fact that I'm a gaijin. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Pretsy 1343 Posted November 16, 2016 (edited) 2 hours ago, patientZERO said: ^ well, to make matters worse, I'm an American in Japan, so there's all sorts of cultural differences ... Like I don't know if she was interested in me or just interested in the fact that I'm a gaijin. The worst case scenario might be the situation where she would just pretend to be "dating" with you to her own friends (out of being such a special snowflake) while just keeping terms anything but intimate with you due to more likely lack of "cultural understanding" or "touch". So you shalt consider the latter before anything but who knows? Maybe it is rather different and actually more genuine in JP (cross-culture/ethnicity dating) than it is in SG, KL or TW... (Regards, the man with this experience) Edited November 16, 2016 by Alroy Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
patientZERO 1066 Posted November 16, 2016 39 minutes ago, Carmelzors said: The worst case scenario might be the situation where she would just pretend to be "dating" with you to her own friends (out of being such a special snowflake) while just keeping terms anything but intimate with you due to more likely lack of "cultural understanding" or "touch". So you shalt consider the latter before anything but who knows? Maybe it is rather different and actually more genuine in JP (cross-culture/ethnicity dating) than it is in SG, KL or TW... (Regards, the man with this experience) I honestly don't know her friends at all, since she doesn't talk about them very much, but the way she talks with me, she's eager to spend time with me (and I the same with her), but don't know when (or if) to make a move ... I do think she's a bit more mature to just be pretending to be dating a gaijin as I don't think her friends would give a damn. I guess I'm just more concerned if she's just spending time with me because I'm a gaijin and it's new and fun, but has no romantic attraction to me at all. I am so bad at this ... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Pretsy 1343 Posted November 16, 2016 2 minutes ago, patientZERO said: I honestly don't know her friends at all, since she doesn't talk about them very much, but the way she talks with me, she's eager to spend time with me (and I the same with her), but don't know when (or if) to make a move ... I do think she's a bit more mature to just be pretending to be dating a gaijin as I don't think her friends would give a damn. I guess I'm just more concerned if she's just spending time with me because I'm a gaijin and it's new and fun, but has no romantic attraction to me at all. I am so bad at this ... Give it some time and go with the flow for now (considering the complexity of this situation). It's no fun to rush with these things, especially when it comes to such vast differences (I presume that may be the first time she is having this kind of close chatter with "gaijins" like you, no?) Cheers! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
patientZERO 1066 Posted November 16, 2016 Just now, Carmelzors said: Give it some time and go with the flow for now (considering the complexity of this situation). It's no fun to rush with these things, especially when it comes to such vast differences (I presume that may be the first time she is having this kind of close chatter with "gaijins" like you, no?) Cheers! She's told me that she has met some friends from other countries, but nobody from America. She's got some friends from Australia that she said she's talked to before. We've "gone out" twice now and have plans to spend the day together again this weekend, so I guess this is good news. The more time I spend with her, the more I am attracted to her, which I didn't think would happen to be honest. I'm also not one to jump into things (I'm not a very forward person) but goddam did I want to hold her hand today ... I'm just a sappy hopeless romantic. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Pretsy 1343 Posted November 16, 2016 (edited) 38 minutes ago, patientZERO said: She's told me that she has met some friends from other countries, but nobody from America. She's got some friends from Australia that she said she's talked to before. We've "gone out" twice now and have plans to spend the day together again this weekend, so I guess this is good news. The more time I spend with her, the more I am attracted to her, which I didn't think would happen to be honest. I'm also not one to jump into things (I'm not a very forward person) but goddam did I want to hold her hand today ... I'm just a sappy hopeless romantic. Pro tip: Give up on "sappy hopeless romantic" idea you have inside your head. You should not let anything hinder you in case you are really dead serious about it - and by doing so you ought believe there is a "right" moment somewhere - considering your situation it could be VERY close. Who knows? (I don't know that but you know it better yourself, right man?) I ain't the guru or the man of all good knocks but I had to comment on your situation since your current thinking sorta reflected the situation I have been stuck in for ages - " will she treat me like a foreigner? Am I too "alien" to her? Can there even be chemistry between us as in mutual sense?" questioning has turned me into miserable, skeptic fuck but let's not get too personal and dramatic with these details: Just get this "Gaijin" thing out of your system. The more you think about it, the more you are braking your own progress there. To be frank, thinking akin to "how should I go since they are white/black/Japanese/asian/slavic/african/trans/etc. etc." is completely irrelevant if you do honestly sense there is some real stuff going on between you and "the one" you may cherish etc. Current year, guys - it's not a meme. Current year. Inb4 another guy making a skit out of my performance. Yes, this is sad but "please clap". Edited November 16, 2016 by Alroy 1 patientZERO reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
patientZERO 1066 Posted November 16, 2016 55 minutes ago, Carmelzors said: Pro tip: Give up on "sappy hopeless romantic" idea you have inside your head. You should not let anything hinder you in case you are really dead serious about it - and by doing so you ought believe there is a "right" moment somewhere - considering your situation it could be VERY close. Who knows? (I don't know that but you know it better yourself, right man?) I ain't the guru or the man of all good knocks but I had to comment on your situation since your current thinking sorta reflected the situation I have been stuck in for ages - " will she treat me like a foreigner? Am I too "alien" to her? Can there even be chemistry between us as in mutual sense?" questioning has turned me into miserable, skeptic fuck but let's not get too personal and dramatic with these details: Just get this "Gaijin" thing out of your system. The more you think about it, the more you are braking your own progress there. To be frank, thinking akin to "how should I go since they are white/black/Japanese/asian/slavic/african/trans/etc. etc." is completely irrelevant if you do honestly sense there is some real stuff going on between you and "the one" you may cherish etc. Current year, guys - it's not a meme. Current year. Inb4 another guy making a skit out of my performance. Yes, this is sad but "please clap". Typical me ... overthinking everything. Let's just see how this weekend goes ... Well, honestly, thanks for the advice and at least taking me seriously. I truly wish you the best in your current situation. From what I can gather, you've got a good head on your shoulders, so don't let anyone discount that. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
reminiscing2004 617 Posted November 16, 2016 It's hard not feeling imbalanced by the fact that we can remember everything about our past and know nothing of our future. https://snapshotvignettes.files.wordpress.com/2015/09/balance-seesaw-1940x900_35779.jpg Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JukaForever 758 Posted November 16, 2016 So many new people posting, hello new people 1 CAT5 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
suji 8317 Posted November 17, 2016 (edited) 2 hours ago, JukaForever said: So many new people desperate for d******** Edited November 17, 2016 by midi:nette 3 Spectralion, plastic_rainbow and Takadanobabaalien reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
plastic_rainbow 2162 Posted November 17, 2016 somebody save this drummer Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
patientZERO 1066 Posted November 17, 2016 ^ WTF is going on at 1:40? 1 reminiscing2004 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
The Bread Wolf 231 Posted November 17, 2016 3 hours ago, plastic_rainbow said: somebody save this drummer The things you do to get dat pussy. 3 plastic_rainbow, Aferni and Deathtopi4 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Eikazuya 3 Posted November 17, 2016 (edited) What is Microsoft thinking about Linux ? Is Microsoft trustworthy ? It's bugging me Noob like me will never understand --------------------------------------------- Project IPC 15+1 --------------------------------------------- Edited November 17, 2016 by Eikazuya Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PsychoΔelica 648 Posted November 17, 2016 As I understood 'hot people' used to be today's Kiwamu's bitch? lol Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AliceParanoid 292 Posted November 17, 2016 I'm the only one who gets annoyed by all this people in YT like "I camw from this and that" Like just watched Insanity Injections PV and like 90% is there like "I came from FineBrothers" Like yeah no one cares if u came from finebrothers or some other shit. No need to spamm the comment sections with this shit. 2 itsukoii and suji reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
suji 8317 Posted November 17, 2016 the fine bros are humanoid forms of aids 9 orange~, Anne Claire, Karma’s Hat and 6 others reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
patientZERO 1066 Posted November 18, 2016 ^ That's a bit harsh ... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
suji 8317 Posted November 18, 2016 (edited) 8 minutes ago, patientZERO said: ^ That's a bit harsh ... not as harsh as them trying to make """reaction videos""" for $$$$ and attempting to scam their fans with "react world" Edited November 18, 2016 by midi:nette Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
patientZERO 1066 Posted November 18, 2016 Yeah. I still think that's a bit harsh. Just because they made some shady business attempts doesn't warrant that type of response. They're human beings still. I don't particularly like them or their company, but I don't think that's the way you should react to people (no pun intended). Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
suji 8317 Posted November 18, 2016 1 Takadanobabaalien reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Eikazuya 3 Posted November 18, 2016 Got up late, Open COmputer Updates broke my PC Play Yu-Gi-Oh! And About to win Works comes up And my butt is itching a lot I am sensing bad aura emitting from my body ------------------------------------- (=___________________________=) ------------------------------------- Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
a11 11 Posted November 18, 2016 someone replaced my nutella jar with an empty one, i need moar Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Biopanda 2675 Posted November 18, 2016 pretty much me 5 Tokage, nekkichi, Takadanobabaalien and 2 others reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nekkichi 6043 Posted November 18, 2016 interesting bath bomb approach 1 Biopanda reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
