I feel like if I'm ever to truly find success with women then I'm going to have to start getting out of my comfort zone and going to bars or something because I just don't understand how else to find someone. I recently ended things with a girl from Brazil I was dating because of the language barrier issue and because I couldn't connect to her emotionally in the way I wanted to. But it's like any time I find someone they are from some other country which makes dating them so difficult. I've tried all sorts of dating websites. Even really niche ones. But never really had much success. I'd really just like to connect with someone from my state (Or country at this point) some how but it just never seems to work out that way. I've recently turned 24 and I'm still without much success.
To the people who have had relative success with dating can you tell me how you do it? Do you date other visual kei fans or are cold approaches with randoms really the way to go? And to the women of this forum. How did you find your boyfriend? Did they message you somewhere or did they cold approach you at university or a concert or something? I'd really like to hear from the perspective of some of you here.