@gen-shoku, I can totally relate to that. I was in a long relationship and was struggling there. Both of us were heading to different directions, but still tried to find some common ground. That prevented either of us from getting anywhere in life. I guess it's possible to reshape yourself while being with someone, but I'm the kind of person that always adapts to surroundings and people around me without even thinking about it. I adapt too much, not prioritizing my own desires enough. So I came to a conclusion that in order to be whatever I'm becoming - I need to be by myself.
So yeah - I've been single for a good while now and I guess I'm really liking it. It's kinda funny though - Single people around me are almost neurotic in finding a partner, so much so that I've started to think there's something wrong with me. I'm fully content with just hanging around with friends and stuff. I have no need for a partner or even intimacy. Not that I'm against per se, but I can live longer periods without just fine. I've had few people I've spent more private time with every now and then, but I'm seriously considering if relationships are my thing at all.
Open relationships are a thing of course too, and I guess they take away much of the negative aspects of traditional flings and relationship. I should probably try them before judging, but somehow I doubt people can remain in this "open-ness" for long. I value freedom way too much. Freedom of not having any responsibilities to report your comings and goings. I can also lead just as depraved lifestyle that I want as single lol.