Gesu

They don't mollycoddle, but people expect you to do that in day-to-day life if they're feeling down/depressed. Unfortunately, I can't do that because I don't have the patience. I just need to provide people with a solution, and if I can't, then I'll direct them to someone who can. I don't know what that makes me, but I'm definitely not as kind as the people who can sit there and just listen. They probably think I'm victim-blaming or something... not that I'm trying to. I don't get angry at people for having problems; I just can't deal with them if I don't have a solution to them.

i feel you 100%, as you can see i even responded to the particular problem of how you're gonna be a therapist, not to the more emotional part of how you're not good at comforting people...i thought i was an unsympathetic beast, nice to know there are such people too and they are not really bad lol

does it have something to do with our mayers-briggs personality type btw?

Could be that. I am a logician, and people who are fuelled by logic don't really see much point in saying everything's going to be okay if no-one's gonna try and even make it okay. I know that probably sounds a bit pessimistic, but I just can't deal with people expecting me to listen if they want me to sit there and keep my mouth shut and my hand on their shoulder. I don't know, maybe I'm just selfish, but I know a guy who used to be a therapist and he said that all relationships have to be balanced, so maybe I just don't like that lack of balance a lot of my close friendships tend to have. They always get like that when I get closer to people... they open up to me emotionally because they see me as easy to talk to, but I think they get so open that they want me to be closed.