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  1. Gesu

    *VENT*

     

    I wish my best friend would stop expecting me to listen to her problems all the time if she's not prepared to listen to what I have to say back. It really gets me down... it makes me feel like she doesn't trust me at all. She says it's because she doesn't want me to feel like I have to say something, but I always tell her I don't have anything to say and that I wish she'd stop telling me about all her hypochondriac issues that I can't do anything about (she's been doing this for years, and it gets old pretty quickly), but she does it anyways even though she knows it pisses me off and makes me feel helpless. It wouldn't be so bad, but she's not the first person who's expected me to just sit there and nod my head before. Don't they realise that making people feel like they can't do anything to help their friends makes them feel crappy, too? I get that it can feel good to get things off your chest (as I'm doing right now), but if it's over and over again and you're not going to listen to what the other person has to say, it's meaningless.

    1. nekkichi

      nekkichi

      I feel like this type of ppl always has actual best friends they never bother with their shit and also friends of convenience that they dump the bullshit onto, and you should teach them boundaries/switch the subject once the whining comes up giving them an idea you aren't interested if the conversation about life issues isn't mutual.

      my current go to line when i run into this behaviour is nodding a couple times and then outright telling them like 200 reasons I prefer candle meditation over talking to people who I know for a fact aren't interested in my personal problems.

    2. platy

      platy

      Can totally relate. You could just outright say "if you're not gonna listen to what I have to say then we should just skip this conversation" or something. I've got to the point where I don't bother with niceties, some people will only get a reality check once you're blunt with them. 

    3. Gesu

      Gesu

      I always am blunt with her at this point, but she still doesn't listen. The weird thing is, I don't think she does it on purpose, but as I said, it's not the first time it's happened. I'm not a pushover because I've managed to end multiple friendships like this, but it still always happens to me and I don't know why... guess I'll just have to try being even more blunt. Thanks, you two. :)

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