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  1. Gesu

    Why am I so bad at comforting people? I can't listen to someone without feeling like I have to say something back, and if I don't know what to say, I feel useless. It wouldn't be so bad, but everyone just kind of expects me to "be there" for them when I know I'm not compassionate enough for that. Maybe I should re-evaluate whether I really want to become a therapist. I want to work with children, so I guess that'd be a bit easier as children generally tend to want a straightforward solution as opposed to the "there, there, it's going to be okay" that a lot of adults want (you'd think it'd be the other way around, but it's not), but it still wouldn't be totally easy for me.

    1. yomii

      yomii

      do therapists comfort their clients? i know that they don't give advice, but i thought they don't say something like "it's going to be okay" either~

    2. Gesu

      Gesu

      They don't mollycoddle, but people expect you to do that in day-to-day life if they're feeling down/depressed. Unfortunately, I can't do that because I don't have the patience. I just need to provide people with a solution, and if I can't, then I'll direct them to someone who can. I don't know what that makes me, but I'm definitely not as kind as the people who can sit there and just listen. They probably think I'm victim-blaming or something... not that I'm trying to. I don't get angry at people for having problems; I just can't deal with them if I don't have a solution to them.

    3. yomii

      yomii

      i feel you 100%, as you can see i even responded to the particular problem of how you're gonna be a therapist, not to the more emotional part of how you're not good at comforting people...i thought i was an unsympathetic beast, nice to know there are such people too and they are not really bad lol

      does it have something to do with our mayers-briggs personality type btw?

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