heresytrash

A little bit of an update; my supervisor ended up talking to her (with someone as a witness I guess) and he basically told her that while they don't mind she's religious, she can't hold coworkers personally accountable for not going to her church and that work is not the place for it. We do have some rules at my company regarding politics/religion as well in terms of discussing it, meaning if someone is not particularly comfortable discussing it than not discussing it at all is the best option. They're rather touchy subjects anyway.

I haven't talked to her lately though, and she hasn't really come to me so I think we both just realized ignoring the other is the best and I hope that she takes the supervisor's advice and just leave work as work.

So I work in production, I've been with this company for little over a year now and I do like the atmosphere most of the time as I get along with most of my coworkers and I'm part of a few committees that get me more involved with things like safety and what not. 

Recently we've been getting new temps coming in, which we lose at least 3 of the 6 that originally show up for orientation. It's a very different type of production however, so when they see what we do it really is easy for them to get confused and just walk off the job completely. Within our last group, only two lasted. One is great, but the other one (who we'll call CG) is starting to show signs of starting unnecessary drama and all around acting rude to people. 

She's a very religious girl, and while I can appreciate that she's passionate about something and loves God (even if I'm agnostic), the way she tries to pressure everyone at work to go to her church is a little unnerving. She's already stopped talking to two coworkers because they didn't show up to church, and she's constantly telling us not to smoke and drink though mostly everyone at work does smoke (and drink). I get that she's young too, and as I said I get that she's passionate about the church, but a lot of people that I work with aren't (including myself) and if they are, they don't normally talk about it or tell people to join their religion.

I'm the one who trained her at first. We do something call 'Full Cleans' on our rooms to prepare for the next product, and her first day of working was essentially with me doing said Full Clean. They're generally easy to do if you know the process, but I'm not going to go into the logistics of that. So I taught her the next day how to do one, and I must say she did good for her first clean so I was pleased. We were friendly with each other the first few days too, as I always try to be friendly towards the new people.

However not even a week later she started to show some attributes I don't like. One instance where I was talking to my friend/coworker about going out to drink, and CG just turns to me and says "Ash, you shouldn't drink." I laughed at her and said I drink on the weekends all the time, and she said once again "But you shouldn't drink, it's against my religion."  Then the next couple of days was sort of hard for me. I was trying so hard to clean one room, and because the machine has corners that are hard to get it kept failing the Quality Check. She wasn't in my room, but walked up to me and said "Ash, you should put me in your room so I can clean it so it can pass." When I didn't respond to her, she just said "I'm just saying." (I found out Friday she told another Operator to let her clean because she can do it better?)

Then another instance where another coworker tried to help her out with something as water was leaking from her room, and she yelled at him for doing it. He's a guy who's been there 11 years and takes no bs from anybody, so he told her (in Spanish btw) that she really needs to watch her attitude. She then turned him in to our supervisor for 'harassment'. (All because he was trying to help her clean up the water outside her room)

Sorry if this is long, but I felt like I needed to include some instances. I'm not as friendly towards her anymore, at least not more than I have to. I just don't know how to approach her anymore as I found out that she's been trying to start things with everyone. The last instance actually made me mad because even though that guy is kinda hard to get along with sometimes (he's got a different personality) he's a hard worker and will help you when you ask him.  We've even discussed her with some of our higher ups, but I think because she's new they wanna wait a minutes. (idk, it's all weird to me.)

I do hope I'm just wrong about her, but there was something off about her after a couple of days. Like she's being fake-nice. 

Also if this is not allowed here, please feel free to let me know or delete it. I just don't know where else to put this. I just wanna know if ignoring her is the best, or if having a serious talk with my supervisor about her behavior is needed. 

16 hours ago, platy said:

I had to stop buying it because it seems like it's gonna be never-ending and the story's going nowhere (at least when I still read it).  But now I'm curious what you mean by it going in a direction you're not find off 👀 Care to tell me under a spoiler tag? 

It really is never ending, it seems to never end. As long as something doesn't happen to Meyrin or the other Servants I'm fine though.

I'm reading Kuroshitsuji on and off. I'm kinda only in it for the side characters back story and then I might nope out of it again. The storyline went in a different direction I wasn't too fond of though so......

Plus it's been so long at this point ha ha

I think most of the gazette vs dir en grey was someone on each side being a troll, and a lot of the people involve (sadly myself included) at the time were very young and impressionable. I saw it mainly on deviantart of all places, and sometimes LJ but I wasn't as active on there.

I don't hear anything about the supposed war anymore other than a few troll comments on videos, but /shrug.

On 2/2/2020 at 11:24 AM, platy said:

There are people with health bills, children and other dependants who still love visual kei but unfortunately have to skip lunch/transport to save that money for bills and other necessities. If you are able to devote those coins for your favorite bands then you are extremely lucky tbh. I totally agree that we should support bands we love and that if you can sacrifice that weekly McDonald's trip to support artists its a win win situation, but it's not that simple for everyone. 

I've had to cut down on a lot of my hobbies/likes because of things I need to pay for in order to survive. I'm more fortunate than most fans still, but I think buying at least a CD is doable for most fans. I think I only pissed off one of my 'friends' when she asked me to send her an album, but she had a better paying job than me and wasn't paying any bills and my response was just to 'buy it on itunes' lol Other than that, if I know my friend (close friends at least) isn't in a situation to purchase right away I'll give them the slip and send them something. 

But I don't do this with everyone. I guess I just figure there's other places they can grab it.

Not last night, but a few nights before I had a dream I was running away from Gackt. 

I never felt so much terror in my life.

7 hours ago, Jenova said:

I love Bede and Marnie tbh, and I'm about to get to the Wyndon or w/e it's called but I've been training in the wild area and working on my pokedex in the meantime.  Honestly I think Galarian Rapidash is my favorite new Pokémon by far followed closely by Hatterene and completing the pokedex is a possibility this time, which is awesome tbh

Bede and Marnie were great, they had interesting backgrounds and honestly Bede was a better suited rival. 

I've been training in the wild, I'm supposed to go beat Leon but I can't seem to find a strategy that works with his third pokemon. So I'm training and seeing if I can find another pokemon. He's really hard, at least for my team ha ha.

On 11/25/2019 at 3:02 AM, vesperbell said:

The lack of the full dex isn't really affecting my gameplay to be honest? Admittedly though, I've always been a casual Pokemon player and never really stuck around post-game, or got involved in competitive battling. So I can understand why people are frustrated, but the game has a lot of charm! Would be nice if they hadn't reused some of the graphic assets from previous games as there are parts that look a little disjointed - new areas look lovely, but some of the wild area looks a bit awkward because it looks like there's some reused tree/foliage assets.

 

New Pokemon designs are cute though, and so far I'm liking the characters and the story. I'm also loving all the little nods to Britain, and the dialogue localisation choices are hilarious.

I didn't realize it didn't even have a full dex? But I'm a casual player too, not really into competitive battling or trying since I know my team is basic. (They get me through the game, but yeah not going anywhere with an Eevee I can't even evolve) 

The only character I seem to not like is Hop, but I never liked the friendly rival thing they started having. I liked Blue because he gave you a reason to dislike him, rather than "I'm your best friend! But I'm going to beat you!" and then get depressed when you beat them in turn. Otherwise characters are great in this game. I do like Raihan, maybe a little too much. 

Haven't received it yet, but bought GOTCHAROCKA's new single Chirality. 

9 hours ago, psychonnect_rozen said:

 

I also think considering that K-Pop stans are at least to people EXTREMELY toxic is why people tend to stay away from it like myself. I know fandoms have shitty people but K-Pop I find is the more rabid kind. 
 

I also think many people avert it due to the industry and as repetitive as that opinion really is, you cannot blame people for not supporting it. 
 

It maybe just be me but I’m just annoyed by K-Pop honestly. But hey, what can you do

I also think that most k-pop fans ride on the awards so much that when their group doesn't win something, they cry foul and attack the group that actually won. Blackpink won over BTS, which sent their fandom into a full blown tantrum and honestly I cringed so hard.

Stuff like that just leaves a bad taste in my mouth.

11 hours ago, TheZigzagoon said:

The rival is very annoying in this game, and he seems to just appear every single second. It’s a good game tho so far! 

I honestly would smack him if I could, and doesn't seem like someone I'd be friends with irl smh. 

But I do like the game, I even like the newer pokemon. The only qualm I have is I got an Eevee for playing the game beforehand, but it won't let me evolve it :C I want a Vaporeon. 

Pokemon Sword seems alright so far, but am I the only one who's extremely annoyed at their rivals now? I'd rather have someone like Blue (Gary) again.

On 11/6/2019 at 8:34 AM, Hohchicano96 said:

Thank you for mentioning this! The scene you're thinking of is footage that presents itself as the inspiration behind a photoshoot that the four remaining contestants participate in. Beside the Gazette, there are also cosplayers portraying members of Inugami Circus-dan, MUCC, and Psycho le Cému.

 

 

 

 

https://imgur.com/a/Ukhv8My

I never noticed the other vk bands omg. I just remembered watching this show cause that's what my sister always put on and this popped up, I yelled at the TV and my sister gave me a look like I was insane. 

Sad they labled it Japanime. Would've been interesting to see if they could pull off a vkei photoshoot, but then again that would turn out cringy.

Does anyone remember the Gazette cosplayers who showed up in a clip on America's next top model? 

I'm going to be blunt and say that my oldest brother, the oldest out of us seven, is not a good human being and an abuser. 

Because of this, certain members of my family find it hard to get along with them, though it wasn't the lack of trying. The crimes he did were so heinous and had such a negative impact, with no real acknowledgment from him or apology that it was too hard to keep civil anymore even for my mom's sake.

My mom states that she's the only one who has faith in him when he's never really done anything to redeem himself and gets mad when I dont acknowledgme anything he does.

As of late he wasn't invited to my sisters wedding and he's not invited to my brothers wedding either at his fiance's request to protect her child.

If I get married he won't be invited either, I barely consider him family anymore. 

However the way she talks about our trauma with him is odd, that if any regular Joe schmoe did this to us she'd want his head.

She expects the victim to just realize he's "trying his best" despite he keeps playing victim. Like he hasn't caused any psychological damage to his victims at all and his wife says they're being over dramatic about it.

How can I relay to my mom that even though he's her son, and our brother, his actions are just way too severe and we dont owe him any sympathy or forgiveness?

If this topic is too heavy feel free to delete it, I just had to get it off my chest.

I never had an issue with Lazy ones as I think some people are just casual listeners to music anyways and like what they like.  Hell I found a guy who didn't even listen to music at all, at least on his own accord.

I think the one I had an issue with is the Vkei/jrock fans who are much like the kpop fans who refuse to acknowledge western music. Which is sad because most of the bands they like are inspired by bands from the west. Also I had a friend whose only complaint on one album of a Japanese band is that it sounded 'too western' and I honestly don't know what she meant by that or why it was a problem. I know she won't listen to coldrain because of that reason, like does Masato have to sing in Japanese for you to be interested? 

Must be boring to live like that.

3 minutes ago, Komorebi said:

For the last gazette concert some taller girl used me as support for her phone. She had her elbows on my shoulders and got super aggressive whenever I tried to shove her off or get the phone off my face.
I barely saw Do As Infinity's performance in 2017 because all the really tall fanboys pushed their way to the front and took out their phones.
I've gotten lots of concerts ruined because people want to record them.

If someone did that to me I stg I'd get into it. During one ok rock this tall girl fell back on me causing me to hit another girl behind me, and got mad when  I pushed her off when she didnt move. 

2 hours ago, Ro plz said:

I actually don't think its far fetched for a VK (or any) band to ask that there isn't any photography during their shows. And they as well as the venue have whatever right to lay the consequences on you if you get caught. There have been cases where the performers have called out and or kicked out people for using their phones. Idk about you but I'd feel embarrassed and like a dumbass if I was on the receiving end of that. Granted the GazettE couldn't and wouldn't do so and not all the venues had staff confiscate phones, It's just a matter of integrity and basic respect.

 

Also, no matter what justifications people have had or will have, you can live without taking a picture or video during a set IF you're asked not to. That memory/experience of the show alone should suffice.

 

And lets be honest, the clips and video ppl are willing to potentially get reprimanded for are probably ass anyways.

Coldrain had banned it for a while but allowed it, but only on one man shows as to not disrespect the other acts.

Gazette playing vortex in 2016 was almost ruined for me cause the person in front whipped out the camera and I couldn't see, like please I'm short as it is. So I think doing this can ruin it for other attendees, if I wanted to watch through a screen I'd have stayed home lol

1 minute ago, Gesu said:

I think it's okay if they get therapy before they actually do anything to hurt someone/look anything up because that shows that they know they have a serious problem and they would never act on it/cause anyone any harm but if they actually go through with it, that's unforgivable.

1 minute ago, chipathy said:

I'd rather not give my take on the subject but I would say I rather people who have that mentality have a means to find help rather than go out in the real world and cause harm 

I suppose I worded it weirdly, I'm mainly thinking about someone I know who's actually caused harm and 'admits to doing it' but hasn't made any attempt to formally apologize to me or the victim who has had it much worse from them. Thinking that we owe him any sort of forgiveness for simply 'getting help' when I know he's not remorseful at all and continues to play the victim card on us.

Not sure if it really is an unpopular opinion, but I don't think there's any redemption for pedophiles/child molestors/child abusers. I don't care how many '12 step programs' there are, there's no redeeming that. 

(I only bring this up because I literally had to hold myself back from yelling at my own mom)

Working graveyard is gonna be the death of me one day lol 

Depends on what I listen to honestly. I think mostly of the furi whenever I listen to GazettE, and try to do them in my head. With BTS and Blackpink I just think of the dances, nothing special.

I played 70 hours of breath of the wild so far. I need a life.

6 hours ago, Komorebi said:

I have this friend I consider close and we haven't really seen each other or communicated much in over a month. I'm kinda pissed because her IG stories show she's not really busy, just clinging to her boyfriend. Which would be ok if she hand't blown me off a few times recently and only after I almost threw a fit she kinda apologized for not realizing I was having a really terrible time and needed support. But then when I confirmed I was feeling like shit she just said "well, the only one with the power to help you is yourself' and stopped responding.
Like a week later I told her I was sick of always having to beg for a text reply and then see her text her bf nonstop when we were together and how bad and hurt her careless attitude made me feel. She left it on seen, and now, a week later, I find out she's attending a party organized by the same guy I had a physical fight with at a club. I find that really disloyal and I told her so, but she just ignored me again.

IDk if I should talk things with her or just tell her to fuck off and delete her from my social media. That feels very childish and immature but she's also showing to be very unreliable and overall a bad friend.

As hard as it is, considering the history you two probably have together, the best thing for the both of you might just to end the relationship. Maybe not for good, but for now it seems that she isn't putting the same effort into the relationship you are. I've had situations like this, and decided that I needed to take care of myself first and not waste my energy on people who could care less about me.