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Well, as the title indicates, I asked a Chinese girl out...
 
And she instantly replied "NO".
 
It's OK. Been rejected numerous times. Who cares.
 
But, even after that, she was still nice to me, so I asked her out again.
 
Seems she got angry this time. She told me "Don't ever ask me that again!"
 
Well, in my head, just WHY? I don't see the reason why she acted like that.
 
Now she doesn't even talk to me.
 
It should be a compliment that she was asked out on a date, right?
 
It this a Chinese thing or something?
 
Thanks.

こんなスレあったのかー！おもろい！(`ω´)
ヒロキの日本語がうますぎてワロタ（笑）

http://edition.cnn.com/2014/07/28/world/asia/japan-schoolgirl-murder/index.html http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tsutomu_Miyazaki http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Issei_Sagawa I'm so worried about my country... Some Japanese are outrageously crazy... The question is, do these kinds of people exist in your country?
 
 

didnt it happen in Germany? I remember Rammstein had some song (Mein Teil, not sure if its writting like that) about something similar and even in live shows they made a representation with the singer cooking the keyboards guy   .
 
I think the disturbing thing about Issei Sagawa was the fact that he became kind of a "celebrity"
 
But probably we all have our share of ****** crazy people...I remember the Fritzl case a few years ago...or the 3 girls kidnapped for many years too in the US that was discovered 1-2 years ago...maybe they werent killed but the sickness of those guy kind of matched those from the OP.
 
Having said that...since I live in China (like 6 years) i think the number of this kind of people and situations are higher here that in other places in the world...cases like those almost happen every month

Tetora, use Chrome, highlight it and use one of the functions to open the link in another tab.
 
Like everyone else said, such people exist everywhere. I remember hearing about a man volunteering to be eaten by someone else and they ate the man's penis together, or something like that xD. I think it was in Europe, but I don't remember where XD.

I would say that is not just about visual kei stuff, just when it comes to cultural stuff (i guess with anime, manga and related stuff) is like they dont care about the rest of the world. For example, many dvds of movies are released without any kind of subtitles or if they have subtitle just the japanese ones, while on the other hand you have the korean example that subtitle almost every single movie, even the collections of movies from the 50-60 they release ,had subtitles. Seems like it doesn't matter to then not sell a single cd, dvd etc. outside of Japan, For the rest, I kind of agree in everything.
 
PS.
the OP is true...he is not like what u would expect of  the typical japanese guy 

Not a fan of Japan's work culture. When you work overtime, it is expected of you and from what I've heard you usually don't get paid for that overtime. No wonder why many Japanese men and women die of being overworked. If you work overtime in my country, by law you have to be paid double for every hour you work over 40 hours or something like that. It's illegal to not be paid overtime. And that should be the same in Japan.

I was going to mention exactly the same thing as the person above, because I heard about it as well. It's not good to neglect such people, because they may just take meds and be valuable members of the society. Many of them are just normal people, but with an illness (the ones with depression and personality disorders, some people with schizophrenia).
 
Another thing I thought of, is the drinking culture. I heard that it's common to get drunk after work with co-workers. I'm very anti alcohol abuse, so this is something I really dislike. Basically, it's acceptable in my country to get drunk only on the weekends. When someone has a job and drinks too much on the weekdays, it's rather being frowned at. There are people who do this, but it isn't acceptable and they do it for their own responsibility (they may get fired easily for this). When you go to work hungover, it's a bad thing. If you drink anything during weekdays, you're supposed to control yourself and not drink too much. That's why I don't like what I heard about drinking culture in Japan. To the ones interested in the topic, I found something about it: http://thisjapaneselife.org/2012/05/09/on-drinking-too-much-in-japan/
 
I also dislike the way the visual kei music market works in Japan. This may not affect people inside of Japan, because they have everything easily available, but rather foreigners. The visual kei music market is very closed, many bands sell their CDs and merchandise exclusively to people who come to their lives, or only in shops that don't ship overseas (which increases the downloads as well). I saw many small bands in Europe/US selling their CDs both in their country and abroad. They welcome fans from all over the world with their arms widely open and don't have a problem with shipping their CDs to another country, but Japanese bands aren't that welcoming. They're focused only on Japanese people (I've never seen the official band's webshop sending their stuff abroad, people have to use shopping service and that costs even more, than buying just the CDs, whose prices are already high for foreign people) and sometimes I feel like I'm the worse kind of a fan. My taste in music and heart tells me to stay, but logic tells me to go away, because I'm not in Japan, so I don't matter. Japan tends to be sheltered, like you already said, clear. It's difficult to understand.

First of all, 'aint nobody got time to copy and paste those links....
Second of all, yes, those people exist everywhere, always have, always will.
Japan have a much smaller amount of violent and criminal activites than many other countries.
One of the only figures Japan is high in is being around tenth in suicide rates.
Not to downplay how heinous those acts are that are listed in OP, but you have countries like South Africa where half of all women are raped in their lifetime. Think about it, if you have two female friends, or a sister and a mother, chances are one of them will be raped at least once in their lifetime.
One thing about Native Japanese is that they often think issues in Japan are some unique problem owed to their culture, while they are actually blessed to live in Japan where those problems are much fewer, and I guess they are lucky to have that innocence where these a ts are not so common to them.
Btw, compare a Japanese newspaper to one from the States. Some big papers still report such catastrophes as an old lady falling down a hill in Nagoya.

I remember watching an hour long documentary on Sagawa Issei and what I found interesting was that sorta the whole starting point of his fancy of eating female body parts started from his mother pretty much telling him that masturbation and all sorts is dirty and awful and whatnot, so Sagawa never got to experience normal, healthy sexuality. 
 
PEOPLE, TEACH YOUR CHILDREN TO MASTURBATE

Try looking up people like Ed Gein or Carl Tanzler. Some creepy shit right there.

These kinds of people exist literally everywhere.

One thing that seems to affect the high suicide rates in Japan is, what I've heard, that mental illnesses are a taboo. Seems like whenever you're depressed or schizophrenic or whatever your mindbug is, in Japan you'll end up having no one to talk to and along with the illness itself, you bear a shame of having the illness at all. Heck, I'd kill myself if that was the case.
 
But then again, I live in a country where doctors easily prescribe meds and actually having a professional to talk to is so expensive that most people will just take the pills to tolerate the everyday life.

そうだよね、僕も同感。。。　
まあ、国籍や人種によって思考と習慣がきっと違うことがもちろん分かるけど、どうしても納得できない行為（つばを吐き捨てなど）を見ると気持ち悪くなる時もたまにある。それは差別なんてない、マナーの問題でしょ、笑。　同じ社会に住んでるからには、自分の責任を自覚するのが大切だと思う。
でも、正直、シンガポール人が周りの環境を大切にするからみんな環境を守ろうとしてるというよりも、ここの法律が厳しいからね。例えば電車の中で水を飲むだけで罰金を払わされる、笑。(*_*)
 
そういえば、僕が京都に留学したときのことを思い出した。ある日大学から寮に戻る途中、前の人が急に自転車を降りて、道沿いのゴミを両手で拾ってから近くのゴミ箱に捨てた。これを見た僕はそのとき本当に驚いたよ。そういうことはシンガポールでも絶対ないと思ってた。今省みれば、確かにそれも環境に対する態度と価値観の一つだと思えるね。おそらくどんなに厳しい法律の脅迫でも与えられないものかもしれない。

中国人との会話は基本英語です。だけど、中国人のビジネスマンは完璧な英語話すわけじゃない。シンガポールとは違うよ。ここのオフィスの人々、中国で最も教育受けてきた人間、一流の大学出たか、修士か博士とかだけど、英会話は完璧とは言えないよね。たまに、日本の大学で修士や博士とった中国人と話すときは日本語。日本で修士か博士とった人々は英語話せないからね。
 
敬語は、がちのビジネスの時だけにしたいよね。だけど、きちんとした敬語を使えないと、日本人の顧客に、相手にされないから、日本人とビジネスの時には、敬語は重要。まあ、日本語を第三言語として使うなら、そんなに誰も厳しく指摘しないと思うけど、俺は日本人だからねえ。
LOL　確かに。シンガポール人と中国人じゃ全然違うでしょ。俺の経験からすると全然違う。シンガポール人は中国人じゃないでしょ、”中国系”だといえるけど。日本人にも、シンガポール人はうけがいいんじゃない？シンガポールは進んでる、できる人の集まる場所だって、俺の周りの日本人には言われてる。
 
とにかく、、、、北京じゃ、小さい子供に道端でおしっこさせたりするからね。もう洋服からして、そうできるようになってる。子供だからいいということは、日本ではないよね。そういうことは香港でもない、台湾でも、アメリカでも、シンガポールでも、もちろんないと思う。ゴミのポイ捨て、つばを吐き捨て、ここの人々は、やりたい放題だぜ。笑　
 
シンガポールはそういうの厳しいって聞いたから、やはり文化が全然違うよ。ここじゃ、賄賂が当たり前だよ。ほんとに。

I don't understand all these childish moans of Asian girls, that's not even attractive to me (I'm not straight) o_O. Asian guys - yes, I like them a lot. Asian girls - no no no. Too childish, too cutesy.

そうですね。。この間日本人の交換留学生と交流してる時先生に「敬語をどんどん使ってね！！」と言われて、結局ずいぶん違和感がある経験になってしまいました (>_<) 笑、敬語は教室で練習として使うならいいけどね。
 
 
 
日常用語を覚えておいたらやっぱり役立ちますねw じゃ、中国人との会話はいつも英語でしますか？
 
空気の質などの問題は中国人の友達からもよく聞いてます。本当に大変ですね。。。
 
実は僕が住んでるシンガポールでも、ここで生まれ育った中華系シンガポール人とここに移住された中国人との間で軋轢が数年前からずっと高まってきた (>_<)　確かに、文化的な違いがいっぱいあるという点が僕も良く分かるんです lol.

おお。日本人かと思った。笑　お上手な日本語ですね。
 
それなら、そんなに敬語とか気にしなくていいですよね？ちなみに、日本人の顧客相手にするのはすごく疲れるけど、中国人の顧客と話すのは楽ですよ。だから、今は顧客と話すのは楽ですね。笑
 
中国語はゼロです。ニーハオ、シエシエ、ザイチエン、ウォアイニー、ダイズ「セブンイレブンで買い物するとき、ビニール袋が必要な時あるから覚えた、笑」が、俺の知ってる全部の中国語かな。
 
LOL　中国には来ないほうがいいかもしれませんね。お金持ちの中国人は、みんな国外に移住しているようです。特に、北京は空気が汚すぎて、外に出ても、気分が悪くなるだけですから。。。南の中国や、大連などは、まだ空気が北京よりはだいぶましと聞きます。。。
 
So, you can handle three languages? That's awesome. LOL Me, not possible anytime soon.
 
BTW, what I've posted on other threads may have been a bit too provocative, but I'm just an honest guy. No offense to you, plus, like I posted, I don't hate the Chinese. Some of my best friends in college were Chinese for real. I still stay in touch with them. I'll meet one of them soon here in China.

ああごめん、日本人がほとんどいないっていうのは中国じゃなくてこのフォーラムです　
 
北京で働いてるんですね！中国語喋れますか？それが私の母語だけど実際に中国に行ったことは一度もないな。笑 

LOL　日本人？
 
そうですね、北京で働いてます。今日は土曜だけど働いてます。笑
 
んんん、日本人も結構いると思いますね。まあ、確かに、日本語勉強したことある中国人は多いですね。
 

lol! 今中国で働いてるんですか？
 
ちなみに日本語喋れる人は結構いるけど、
日本人ならほとんどいなさそうですね^^

ahaha this so much!
 
BOKU WA NIHONJIN WA DAISUKI DESU~ 
^___^

HOOOOO !! REAL JAPANESE ?? I LOVE YOU GUYS !!! = ^__^ =
 
(Sorry to be annoying, but I couldn't prevent myself  X3 )
 
I didn't know there was japanese people on Monochrome Heaven
 
It's soooo cool !

I don't read manga for months now, but there's a list of mangas I like:
Gantz (that ending was disappointing, but the whole manga was badass at least XD)
Bleach (I kinda have a emotional connection with it)
Naruto (same as Bleach)
One Piece (actually I only read some volumes of it, I prefer the anime)
Pokémon Adventures (I love Pokémon, and this manga is just perfect till the Silver/Gold/Crystal saga ends)
Dragon Ball (a classic, I started reading it cause a publisher in country is publishing it again. Unfortunately I didn't buy some edition and now I'm stuck with my reading since I don't like online reading anymore... But I'm gonna buy the editions I don't have XD)
Toriko (dude that is insane, I like it)
High School of the Dead (just because I liked the anime and now the Full Color Edition is being published here)
Fairy Tail (so much feels dude)
Air Gear (I still gotta read it to the end, the art is just badass)
Astral Project (the time I read it, was a great thing for me)
Bakuman (fucking loved it)
 
Maybe there are other mangas I like but I don't remember now. 
 
  Totally the opposite LOL I first read the manga, then I got to watch the anime and only liked the opening theme. BACK-ON is cool~

Here are some of my favorite ongoing series (and yes I mainly like "comfy" slice-of-life series, I've gotten disinterested in "battle shounen")
(I get an adrenaline rush from Brynhildr though, awesome manga)
 
Shoujo:
Nukoduke
Horimiya
Taiyou no Ie
Hibi Chouchou
 
Sienen/Shounen:
Himouto! Umaru-chan
Seitokai Yakuindomo
Kiwaguro no Brynhildr (I'm addicted to this series)
Denkigai no Honya-san
Tsuki! Tsuki!
To-Love-Ru Darkness (2lewd)