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Also, sorry to everyone for seemingly hijacking this thread. I must look like a egomaniac but it's totally unintentional ^^"

I'd love to know this too. I honestly don't get it. This is why I think FWB just doesn't work if you're the kind of person who cares about someone's feelings.

Dude, I've only interacted with you a few times but i've always seen you as a sage, both musically and culturally. Thank you so much for your insight, it makes so much sense to me. I've quoted the part that resonated with me the most as I feel it probably best explains my issues with guilt. In all honesty, things never got as far as sex but it was certainly on the table. However every so often I could see that she looked sad and put two and two together. I never wanted to mislead this woman and made her very aware of where I was at early on. I guess my mistake was being unable to do anything but the 'boyfriend experience'. Fuck being an insensitive douchebag though. I'm not going to care any less for someone just because it's recommended in the alpha male bible. To be honest, I have feelings for her too but our life goals are different. This is all very confusing. I just don't want to date her and waste her time in the long run, regardless of how compatible we are in pretty much every other area.

True. I entered this arrangement because I was sick of hurting people/being hurt in relationships. Everything was going well; we were both attracted to each other, got on really well, and communicated our different life goals from the get go. However she now has the feels. She has admitted fault and has understood my reasons for drawing a line in the sand. However I just can't help feeling guilty. I really don't think I'm cut out for anything until I sort my head out, not even NSA relationships. So yeah, I should clarify that FWB probably does work. Just not for oversensitive people like me.

Fair enough, glad to hear it worked for you.

For anyone considering a friend with benefits arrangement, here's some advice from this bumbling idiot: Don't.

I agree. They're amazing. The new guitarist really breathed new life into them after that crappy self - titled disasterpiece.

Definitely. I really feel they hit their stride with that song so it was a shame that they disbanded shortly after They sure know how to remake a song. How many versions of A Forlorn Hope did we end up with in the end? XD

Yeah, although the Fatal Error Race was solid Very true. To be fair I think I love both in equal measure. Hearing either version of Bleadear makes me want to wreck shit up XD

I dunno...the output just before their breakup was a garbled mess. Their umpteenth remakes of their best singles were just overcomplicated for no reason. The Paranoid Personality singles were awesome though Personally I feel that Para:noir were better.

They're hit and miss but they have some real bangers. I'd recommend checking out their singles albums as they contain most of their better songs (except Emily. Screw that song).

I prefer The Novembers' Hallelulah album to Rhapsody In Beauty *hides*

Thank you I guess like most things it just takes time, perserverence, and a lot of luck!

Thank you! I've just started and what little confidence I had is in freefall ^^"

I think it's finding that inner strength and knowing what you truly want. No point settling for second best just because From the sound of it, no one here is enjoying Tinder XD

My ex and I spent some time on Tinder...together. Just shows how well we get on even after the relationship! XD I have 0 matches since yesterday. She got 4 in around 30 minutes tonight. I feel like a troll.

We've all gone a bit loopy, but it keeps us all sane How are you finding the single life? 🙂

Forgive me, I've watched too much anime 🤦🏻‍♂️😂

We need our own dating group for COOL/SHY/CUTE people ❤️ It's weird. I want a shy, cute chick and yet I'm rubbish at making the first move sooooo I don't XD I keep end up getting scooped up by women who are much more independent so while I'm initially happy and flattered, my emotions eventually get stomped all over.

Agreed =.= None of the girls are my type at all. There are few alt girls on there, and the ones who are aren't attractive 😢

Oh ditto. Kind of the reason why I want to get on the dating scene/meet new people. I don't get out much and pretty much just keep myself to myself. Kind of wish I did the whole uni experience properly instead of being an introvert.

I FEEL SO OLD! YOU'RE BOTH WHIPPERSNAPPERS! 😂

I'm a dude...not sure if that's a good or bad thing right now XD I'm also 29 so maybe it's a maturity thing? 🙂

Saaaaaame! God damn, guys. Let's start a club!