patientZERO

i'm sorry you had to hear that on valentine's day. i don't know what the situation of your relationship is but many people are afraid of marriage in general. personally, i don't like the idea of marriage but i believe one can have a long lasting relationship even without marrying. tying the knot can be scary because it means more responsibilities. maybe she's just not ready for it? i mean, given that it's only been three years it may still be too early to think about it. you can always ask her if she would like to continue the relationship even if she doesn't want to get married. time will only tell if she decides to change her mind later. you never know.

don't worry about it...

marriage doesn't mean happiness.

I also never wanna marry, unless it's really need.

if you love each other you don't need to marry at all.

I want to get married, have kids, and have a life with her and I'm running out of time. I'm over 30 and I'm watching everyone around me live the life I wish I could. Is it harsh of me to ask the question of whether or not it's worth continuing if she doesn't want to get married? I know you're just an outside party on the internet, but sometimes it's easier to hear/get advice that way. Thank you for listening and offering your time and advice. I've just sat at home unable to move or do anything since. This just all comes as a shock because from the moment we got serious, she's known that I always wanted to get married and always dreamed of starting a family. Why now the change of heart?