^ Not always, it actually based on the culture of a country or family or lifestyle really.
O.K, i'll start it here.
I am non scene person, i don't go to the gay clubs and stuffs.
I don't do flings and shit as well.
And i am too busy to go out at night for a date.
Since i always home late from work already too tired to think about dating.
So i only find a date from dating sites and it started from there.
And it's been great with me.
this will be tl;dr so please put your attention to it.
First up, if you like to join one, you need to get your mind straight.
Of what you are looking for from the websites.
Is it a possible future partner, or for casual sex or for friends with benefit or just a date.
And you need to be yourself, don't let anyone there dictate you anything.
90% of members in a dating sites are perverted sick fucks, young and old, so you have to be really careful.
And you need to know about the nature of a dating sites, that you are going to join, which the market they cater.
Because if you are looking for relationship but join in a dating sites for casual sex then tough luck you gonna find what you seek.
Though most dating sites are pretty universal, but still, not gonna hurt to find out.
If you got a message or two from someone asking for your nudes on their first message.
Leave them be. They do not worth your time. Unless that's what you're looking for.
Or if you are a polite person, write them nicely that you are not interested in what they have offered.
But don't be surprised if some of them lashing out at you after that.
But yes, there is chance for you to find Mr.Right over there.
This is not a myth or made up stories, cos i have experienced it myself and
seen many of my close friends did too.
Check his backgrounds extensively, because you don't want to be involved with a guy who have married or a drug dealer or a criminal or ex sex offender or an abusive person or a polite lad but controlling and a couch potato don't you?
And give it time, 3-6 month of writing is enough and after that if the guy didn't make
a further move to meet you in person then he may not be serious.
Don't take everything they said to you as it is, until you both meet and there is legit proofs.
If you about to shares face pictures, yes they may ask for more, just to be sure it's really you.
And if you about to send some by e-mail, DO NOT FORGET TO WATER MARK THEM!
Because you never know if those pics will be for making fake profile of yours or worst, placed upon some prostitution sites.
And then after 2-3 weeks, then you can share you numbers if he ask.
And see if he would call you and if he is a fun person to talk with.
If he is a street smart guy or if he is dull.
And if all the things the person said just regarding sex, and you're not comfort with the topic.
Then reminds them that.
And then see if he going to call you back for the second time in i a week time after the first.
If the person absent from doing that, then he may already give up.
Then it is time to start it from scratch again.
But if he calling you back again and again and again, then there might be higher interest with you.
And possibly he will ask for a meeting.
If that happen, on the first date, take either taser or pepper spray or both with you just in case.
Let your parents or your friends or relatives know where you are going to.
So they will know your latest spot.
And when you meet the person, call them again just to show the guy that he cannot mess with you.
And ALWAYS choose the spot that you both agreed on, and a crowded place.
Some guys will ask you the sex in the first night.
So do not be surprised if he will ask you that.
And if you re not the type that giving it down on the first date, tell them so.
Tell them you are not comfort for doing it yet or maybe if you like to keep it until you get married.
That is fair enough.
And if the first meeting going well, again,wait if he will call you again in a week time.
If he does, then he might find more interesting with you and think it could work.
If he doesn't then wish him luck and move on.
And think of what do you feel about the meeting, if the person is nice and interesting for you?
If the person connects with you in a lot of fields?
If you can start to trust him after the first meeting?
If not, then when he call back, if he/she did, then tell them so and get over it with.
And if all things went well, after 3 months, then this is when real him will show.
If all went even better after 3 months of dating, then you might be fit for each other.
Give it a year or two, and if all things went even much better, then see the possibility to
share a living under the same roofs if that is what you both wants.
You will never know a person wholly until you lived with them.
There will be so much discoveries, and you will learn so much about each other.
That you both have flaws and you both need to learn how to handle/deal with it.
Just remember, a relationship basically should give both party happiness.
And it should give each other positive effect, it should make two of you to be a better person.
And you must able to trust each other wholly,
because trust is one of the most important base that make relationship last.
If these things are non existent, don't waste your time, leave it right away.
All decent and healthy relationship will have clear direction where it gonna lead you to.
A companionship. If you didn't see this after 1-2 years of dating, then encourage him/her.
And there is still no actual moves, then maybe there is no go. So just leave it right away.
A decent grow up person will able to take a big decision and all the risks following it.
Just not ever deal with it all with/when/if either:
- A Married person
- Abusive person (either physically or verbally)
- He/She seems to keep comparing you with her exes
- None of your friends says a good thing about him/her
- He/She just say "I Love You" when he/she is drunk
- If he/she wrong calling your name, DANGEROUS!
- A druggie, trust me it is not worth it! Instead you will be influenced to be another junkie.
- A Gold digger. NEVER SEND MONEY OR ANYTHING until you know the person well. Even when you did, DO NOT BE TOO GENEROUS.
Never play with fire or else you'll get burn.
Some people are lucky enough to find their other half on first shot.
But many also have to try few times before they find the right person for them.
So don't lose hope if your first one fails. Keep trying, Little Pony!
After all 18 is such a young age, just enjoy the dating phase.
Don't get too serious with it, just learn about it.
What relationship truly is. Each relationship that fails is a lesson.
It will make you a better person so when you find the right person that will be your last,
you ready and mature enough to get it on with him/her.
This gonna took a lot of guts, cos everyone have different capacities for showing their feelings.
So just be brave and fierce, do not lose yourself just because you want to please somebody.
It is not worth it! Never will. You cannot stop being who you are because you're afraid.
So there it is, some basic guidance from me.
Hope this is helpful.
And i wish you good luck!
