Search the Community

So recently I've had some difficulties like most people do when they decide to live on their own. At first everything was fine and after some struggle I managed to get the utilities in my own name after getting some help with them. But still even after getting all my bills squared away I somehow got behind and was having too many problems. So my answer to this was to get a roommate after the issues I had with having someone living with me before I was pretty hesitant but dove into it anyways. I got a good friend from work to move in and things were going very smoothly until I had some health problems. I had to get a surgery done (don't worry, I'm just fine) and it would put me behind but since she was moving in she said it would be okay and she would help me get by. Then when it came to time for me to start getting the money help she suddenly had a bad speeding ticket and car payments. Since I don't own a car myself and rely on public transit I don't have an issue with payments for a car but knowing people who have tackled them no problems and with lots of problems I know how it can be a problem sometimes. So I asked her if anything if she could get 100 and she said she could but then when the weekend rolled around and it was rent payment time she did not deliver and hadn't been staying at my place and just leaving her things there. On top of that having to borrow money from a friend just to pay for food because she wasn't paying me. I told her since she couldn't help me and left me to tackle everything as I recovered from a surgery that she had to go. I couldn't deal with what was going on with myself at the time and have someone staying with me who wasn't intending to pay for at least a couple weeks. So she moved on and it wasn't any drama or issues. So instead I had someone else move in yet again even though I was still having a bad taste in my mouth I needed the help gravely. Now this time everything was good, she was starting to pay but I was still behind because of paying for my surgery. But then this last weekend rolled around the complex informed me if I didn't have a certain amount they weren't going to work with me anymore and I understand where they are coming from as a business and a rental company. I'm a fairly nice person as well. I don't have a lot of rules either. Just pay my rent, don't make a lot of noise when I'm sleeping as I'm a light sleeper and work 38+ a week, and don't turn my apartment into a fucking icebox since we live in Arizona and the summer cooling bills can be murder. She followed these rules well until this weekend rolled around. I had managed to scrounge up what money I could from my family and close friends as this would get me caught up and I was making payments for the money I owed them. I told her as long as I get her 100 we would be caught up and I wouldn't need anything from her until the end of the month. She assured me it wouldn't be a problem over the course of the weekend until this morning when I asked her if she had dropped off the check in the office drop-box so things would be fine. She said no and that she had to make a payment on her car insurance which just happened to be the amount I needed for the rent. This is after also avoiding me most of the weekend because she had personal matters going on and that I understand as well. I'm at a really tense moment right now. I had to call for some more money help and I had to spend all my money on rent so I have no food or bus money to get around for the week while she went on a date with her boyfriend and got herself things to eat. I told her she didn't have to move out if she was going to be able to at least pay me the 100 this following weekend that things weren't going to work out. Instead of apologizing to me and admitting that she lied to get me off her back she is deciding to just move out. I'm a fair person and would be willing to work with her but after all of this the last thing I want to consider is having yet another person move in and get fucked over again. Now I'm at an impasse. I have no money for food, no bus money, and to make up for rent I have to pay 200 from each of my paychecks until the end of the month leaving little yet again for food and bus money to get to work. I'm quite unsure what to do. I know there are places to pick up food boxes but I have no transportation to those places since I don't have a car or public transit. If there is any advice or help I can get I would really appreciate it since I have no idea what I'm going to do to make it.